Shadow, Shame and the Sacred Monster: Sexual Repression and the Birth of the Demonslut
Introduction
This essay proposes that modern cultural repression of sexuality, both male desire and female sexual expression, has given birth to a collective shadow archetype: the demonslut. Healing requires confronting, integrating, and responsibly expressing this shadow, rather than repressing it further through toxic shame.
Drawing from thinkers such as Carl Jung, Camille Paglia, Wilhelm Reich, Audre Lorde, and modern trauma theorists like Bessel van der Kolk, this exploration aims to contextualise sexual repression not only as a personal crisis but as a cultural, generational wound passed through epigenetics and social institutions.
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1. The birth of the demonslut: male & female repression
The paper titled:
contains a quote;
“Modern ideological and cultural narratives have repressed sexuality itself, demonising male desire as predatory and female sexual expression as shameful”
The concept of a demonslut emerges to describe the combined gender entity resulting directly as counterpoint to the ‘male and female’ forms of sexual repression (predatory-shame). We can easily deify this concept. It represents the shadow of modern attitude toward sexuality. It becomes necessary as a catalyst for healing. The healing is to assimilate it.
As Carl Jung argued in Aion (1951):
“One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.”
What is the DemonSlut? It takes and wants to be taken. It is ultimately yielding and ultimately assertive. It is wild, untamed. It is more than Desire, more than Lust although those are its nature.
It requires another person/s to satisfy itself, lest it voraciously turn upon itself. To force itself down and rape itself because it needs to be forced down and raped; is masturbation.
2. Technology & porn as mirror/amplifier
The rock band Guns ‘n’ Roses put on their album cover for Appetite For Destruction ‘the rape beast’ depicted as a robot. As computer technology developed we now have AI romantic partners, echoing Donna Haraway’s warning in A Cyborg Manifesto (1985) about technology blurring desire, identity, and machinery.
The implication is that technology has sapiosexually raped (mind-fucked) humanity by turning sexuality into machinery, symbolised by the robot rape beast.
Estimates suggest porn sites receive a significant portion of global internet traffic reflects the scale of collective sexual shadow expression. Porn is mass shadow expression.
Statistics on porn preferences (see Pornhub Insights, 2019) show women disproportionately search for genres themed around forced sex or power play, fantasies about being raped by men and women and of raping other women, more than men do.
These fantasies, while shocking on the surface, can be understood, as Bessel van der Kolk describes in The Body Keeps the Score (2014), as the psyche’s attempt to “turn helplessness into mastery” through symbolic rehearsal.
A double standard exists: porn is accused of deforming minds yet rarely framed as a possible outlet for trauma processing. Camille Paglia in Sexual Personae (1990) provocatively argued pornography can be a “psychic safety valve.” We must deal with both potentials: the destructive and the healing.
Our attitudes are toxic because we are processing toxic experiences encoded in generational epigenetics, a concept supported by Rachel Yehuda’s research on Holocaust survivors (Biological Psychiatry, 2016).
3. Agency, rape, and the wound of choice
The act of masturbation is the rape beast raping itself, unable to prevent itself from doing so. It has no control. It is dealing with something which is uncontrollable. Agency is removed without accountability being removed.
Agency, at its most basic definition, is the power to choose yes or no, consent or rejection. Rape ignores rejection as much as it ignores consent. Rape annihilates agency. Long-term, as Judith Herman notes in Trauma and Recovery (1992), this damages the decision-function; survivors lose trust in self and others, integrating this paralysis as part of self-identity.
When you hand over the power to make decisions to someone else and you don’t trust that doing so is reliable, or that the person you’ve chosen (or anyone who claims the right to choose for you) is stable; this reveals something deeper about the original wound that needs healing. It speaks more to the heart of that wound than simply choosing for yourself or picking someone you trust to decide for you.
This wound is more deeply connected to the fear of giving away power than to the idea of deciding for yourself or choosing someone you trust to decide.
In short:
The real issue isn’t just about making choices yourself or picking someone else to decide. The deeper wound shows up in your fear and mistrust of letting anyone else hold that power. That’s what truly needs healing.
The concept of an indeterminate state where the only ‘safe’ answer is simultaneously ‘neither-and-both’; it is a state of confusion. Rendered without Agency one is a child, potentially a delusional child, able to make good choices only a minority of the time when choices are available. The person integrates this as ‘self’ and stops trusting themself to make wise choices.
- The cult mechanism: exploitation of the decision wound
In that confusion, cults seduce the vulnerable by offering simple answers: victim vs. oppressor, good vs. evil.
The wounded decision-function of trauma survivors becomes fertile soil for ideological systems that promise certainty.
The cults most specifically targeting such people today are social-media ‘support networks’ that encourage open gender-hate. As Audre Lorde warned in Sister Outsider (1984):
“The master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house.”
To sacrifice communal stability for personal pain release is not healing. It is to become weaponised by a cult. It is not a healing path. It is to have been exploited by and to have become weaponised by a cult. Effectively the use of cult-jargon to brainwash the person by replacing their cognitive system (with its yes/no dysfunction) with the cults own system of rationale. The same polarisation has corroded both feminism and the manosphere, mirroring each other’s rage.
As a result, women manipulated by anger cease trusting men; men targeted by man-hate cease trusting women. It’s a crisis of polarity: each side radicalises, birth rates decline (Pew Research, 2023; World Population Prospects, UN).
5. Toxic shame & gestation of the shadow
Polarities push toward crisis.
It is debasing to describe human sexuality as a rape-beast. It is divine. As Paglia says:
“Sex is the natural in us, and nature is not kind.”
Sexuality is sacred and healing.
The demonslut is both a monster of repression and a twisted echo of the sacred. Healing means remembering sexuality becomes monstrous only when denied, shamed, or forced underground.
We assimilate the Shadow by confronting it. The stages, denial, anger, acceptance, mirror Jung’s model and modern trauma theory: flight, fight, integration.
The demonslut lives in us all. We are a predatory species, vulnerable yet manipulative. We must get to know this demonslut within. The mask of the demonslut deity can let us play without personal accountability but the risk is living through the mask.
Jung taught the Shadow needs an outlet or it grows. Toxic shame blocks the outlet, ensuring the Shadow gestates until eruption. Repression refines the Shadow rather than dissolving it.
How do we work with this?
Is sadistic repression done purposefully—to gestate the demonslut rather than let it dissipate?
Denial is repression. Declaring the topic taboo is repression.
- The sacred nature of sexuality vs. shadow
What, then, are the safety outlets? Those with agency define them:
• Consensual BDSM
• Erotic art and literature
• Ritual and performance
• Honest dialogue and community support
As Camille Paglia reminds us:
“Pornography is an art form of the imagination, not a manual of actual sex.”
A culture that represses the demonslut ensures harmful eruption. A culture that ritually channels it creates space for healing.
To heal, the community requires a different context than the gender-hate fuelled cults of modern gender segregated, polarised, competitive ‘us verses them’ systems-based thinking.
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Conclusion
This is an open debate. This text is an attempt, crude but necessary, to break chains of repression.
There is always consequence. Whether we choose yes, no, both, or neither: this is the Devil’s dilemma. Consequence and Accountability remain but Denial is the most dangerous.
As Jung insisted:
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
Healing requires personal and cultural courage. To heal, we must confront, assimilate, integrate, ritualise and dance with our demonslut. Not to worship it blindly, but to keep it from ruling us unseen.
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Annotated Book List
1. Carl Jung – Aion (1951): On the Shadow and making darkness conscious.
2. Bessel van der Kolk – The Body Keeps the Score (2014): Trauma stored in the body; symbolic expression as healing.
3. Camille Paglia – Sexual Personae (1990): Pornography as psychic safety valve; nature of sexual shadow.
4. Judith Herman – Trauma and Recovery (1992): Damage to agency and decision-making from trauma.
5. Audre Lorde – Sister Outsider (1984): Critique of using the master’s tools to dismantle oppression.
6. Donna Haraway – A Cyborg Manifesto (1985): Technology, desire, and the blurred self.
7. Rachel Yehuda – research in Biological Psychiatry (2016): Generational trauma via epigenetics.
8. Pew Research & UN – World Population Prospects (2023): Data on falling birth rates linked to cultural polarisation.
See Also Related Topics:
Developing Stable Relationship Skills: Partnership as Pardoning, Stability, and Beyond
Sexuality as Sacred Transgression: Ritual, Taboo, and Social Liberation in the Erotic Community
Shadow, Shame and the Sacred Monster: Sexual Repression and the Birth of the Demonslut
Rituals for the Demonslut: Shadow Work and the Healing of Sexual Polarity
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