Deflection vs Calling Out

 

The Difference Between Calling Someone Out and Manipulative Deflection

There is a crucial difference between calling someone out with evidence and repeatedly lying about someone while avoiding accountability. When a person resorts to false accusations, then blocks any opportunity for discussion while continuing to attack from a safe distance, they reveal more about their own motives than about the person they target. This pattern of behaviour - spreading misinformation, shutting down discourse, and then portraying the other party as dangerous or obsessive - serves as a defensive strategy, designed to evade exposure rather than confront the truth.

In contrast, calling someone out in good faith serves to uphold a community built on trust, truth, and accountability. A person acting with integrity will remain open to dialogue, answer questions to clarify misunderstandings, and - if confronted with solid evidence of wrongdoing - admit fault, apologise, and make amends. That willingness to engage transparently distinguishes genuine accountability from manipulative deflection.

The reason I have chosen to expose her actions is to protect myself from the falsehoods she has spread about me. While I have shared some evidence of her campaign against me, I have not yet revealed the full extent of it. Her actions serve a dual purpose for her: first, they generate drama with her at the center, drawing attention and validation from those who mistake her as a victim rather than recognize the hard evidence proving her manipulation. Second, she uses this manufactured conflict as a stepping stone to elevate her position in the same community that she has misled and deceived- an inherent contradiction that should raise concerns for anyone engaging with her.

Her lack of hesitation in deceiving and manipulating those she works with should be a warning sign, yet she still expects to be respected and granted authority within the very circles she has attempted to control. Her strategy relies on two key factors:

1. Exploiting newcomers : Many will approach the situation without prior knowledge of her history, unaware of the pattern she has established. Others, being forgiving by nature, may extend a second chance without realizing that those she has harmed were never given the same courtesy.

2. Silencing opposition : By controlling the narrative and painting any dissent as harassment, she attempts to eliminate voices that challenge her. This is a deliberate power play, designed to grind those she has targeted into submission, assuming they will not fight back or defend themselves.

The evidence is clear: her behavior is manipulative, her accusations are strategic, and her goal is control rather than truth. Anyone considering working with, funding, or empowering her should be fully aware of what they are endorsing. The publishing world is vast - there are many ethical and trustworthy options available. Choose carefully who you align with, because in doing so, you take on the energy and reputation that comes with them.