Parenting & Sexual Deviancy

Human Psychology and Sexuality: 

Parental and Social Personality Coding vs. Natural or Soul Essence

1. Personality Coding vs. Natural Essence

Parental and Social Personality Coding: From birth, individuals are subject to influences from their environment. Parents, caregivers, and society encode values, behaviors, and expectations into the developing psyche of a child. This “coding” shapes the individual’s external personality and determines how they navigate relationships, including those of a sexual nature.

Examples of Parental Coding: Authoritarian parenting may instill compliance but suppress individuality; permissive parenting may encourage self-expression but fail to set boundaries.

Social Personality Coding: Cultural norms and societal expectations further define sexual behavior. For example, societies with strict moral codes may suppress non-normative sexual identities.

Natural or Soul Essence: In contrast, this refers to the innate tendencies, drives, and spiritual or existential aspects of an individual’s identity. The “soul essence” represents intrinsic characteristics, including sexual orientation or inclinations, that exist independently of environmental conditioning.

Tension Between Coding and Essence: When external coding conflicts with an individual’s soul essence, it can lead to psychological distress, identity confusion, or repression of natural inclinations.

2. The Impact of Fulfilled vs. Unfulfilled Needs

Fulfillment of Needs:

• In line with Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, when basic (e.g., safety, love, belonging) and higher-level (e.g., self-actualization) needs are met, individuals are more likely to develop secure, positive sexual identities and express themselves in healthy ways.

• Fulfillment fosters stable relationships, contributes to societal cohesion, and encourages permissive, open cultures that respect diversity.

Unfulfilled Needs:

• When needs remain unmet—whether due to neglect, trauma, or societal oppression—individuals may experience insecurity, frustration, or alienation.

• Sexual behaviors may then manifest as compensatory or maladaptive responses to these unfulfilled needs. For example, hypersexuality or avoidance may develop as coping mechanisms.

• On a societal level, unmet collective needs can result in restrictive or punitive attitudes toward sexuality, often as a form of control or repression.

Permissive vs. Restrictive Societies:

Permissive Societies:

• Tend to emphasize individual expression, diversity, and acceptance of sexual variation.

• Risk: Excessive permissiveness without addressing deeper needs can lead to alienation, lack of boundaries, or exploitation.

Restrictive Societies:

• Enforce strict rules around sexuality, often tied to religious or moral codes.

• Risk: Repression of natural inclinations can lead to hidden deviancy, guilt, and psychological harm.

3. Sexual Deviancy: Root Causes and Social Implications

Root Causes:

Psychological Factors:

• Childhood trauma, such as abuse or neglect, can distort natural sexual development.

• Feelings of inferiority or unmet emotional needs may drive individuals to seek power or validation through deviant behavior.

Environmental Factors:

• Exposure to permissive or exploitative environments during formative years can normalize deviant behaviors.

• Conversely, overly restrictive environments may lead to suppressed desires manifesting in covert or extreme ways.

Biological Factors:

• Hormonal imbalances or neurological conditions may contribute to atypical sexual behaviors.

Social Implications:

• Individual Consequences:

• Deviancy may lead to feelings of guilt, isolation, or ostracization. Without intervention, these patterns can escalate.

• Societal Impact:

• A lack of understanding or compassion for underlying causes perpetuates cycles of stigma and harm.

• Communities that address root causes—through education, mental health support, and healthy dialogue—are better equipped to manage deviant behavior constructively.

Implications for Society:

• Permissive Societies: May inadvertently tolerate or normalize certain deviant behaviors if boundaries are not maintained.

• Restrictive Societies: Risk creating underground subcultures of deviancy, where lack of transparency leads to unchecked harm.

Conclusion

The interplay between parental and societal coding, individual soul essence, and the fulfillment of needs profoundly shapes human sexuality. Unaddressed psychological and societal factors can lead to deviancy, highlighting the need for balanced approaches that respect individuality while promoting healthy boundaries. Societies must strive to meet both individual and collective needs to foster sexual expression that is both authentic and responsible.

Appendix: Sources and References

• Freud, S. (1905). Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality.

• Adler, A. (1927). Understanding Human Nature.

• Jung, C.G. (1953). Psychological Aspects of the Sexual Symbol.

• Maslow, A.H. (1943). A Theory of Human Motivation.

• Erikson, E.H. (1950). Childhood and Society.

• Foucault, M. (1976). The History of Sexuality.

• Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment and Loss.

• Kinsey, A.C. et al. (1948). Sexual Behavior in the Human Male.

• Laing, R.D. (1960). The Divided Self: An Existential Study in Sanity and Madness.

       •     Current psychological studies on trauma and sexual behavior from peer-reviewed journals (e.g., Journal of Sexual Medicine, Archives of Sexual Behavior).