S&M

 

SadoMasochism (SM or S&M) is a psychological and physical dynamic that involves the giving and receiving of pain, control, or humiliation for sexual, emotional, or psychological gratification. It is a subset of BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism) and encompasses a wide range of activities, relationships, and personal motivations.

Understanding Sadomasochism

The term Sadomasochism combines:

• Sadism – deriving pleasure from inflicting pain, suffering, or humiliation on others.

• Masochism – deriving pleasure from experiencing pain, suffering, or humiliation.

Some people identify primarily as sadists (givers of pain), masochists (receivers of pain), or as switches (who enjoy both roles). However, S&M is not just about pain—it also includes elements of power exchange, psychological dynamics, and altered states of consciousness.

Psychological and Biological Aspects

Many factors contribute to why someone enjoys sadomasochistic experiences, including biological, psychological, social, and cultural influences.

Neurological and Biological Factors

• Endorphins & Dopamine: Pain and intense sensations can trigger the release of endorphins and dopamine, creating a natural high. This can produce feelings of euphoria, relaxation, or deep emotional connection.

• Adrenaline & Cortisol: The fight-or-flight response can intensify experiences, heightening sensations and emotional arousal.

• Neural Rewiring: Over time, some people develop a neurological association between pain, submission, or control and sexual pleasure, reinforcing their enjoyment.

Psychological Theories

• Freudian Theory: Freud suggested that sadomasochism stems from repressed desires, conflicts, or early experiences of power dynamics, leading to a blending of pain and pleasure.

• Jungian Shadow Integration: S&M can be a way for individuals to explore and integrate their shadow self—the part of the psyche that holds repressed desires and impulses.

• Catharsis & Trauma Processing: Some people use S&M as a form of controlled trauma processing. Re-enacting power dynamics in a safe, consensual space can help individuals reclaim agency over past negative experiences.

• Flow States & Transcendence: Engaging in intense power exchange can create trance-like or flow states, where individuals lose themselves in the experience, similar to meditation or deep focus.

Social and Cultural Influences

• Cultural Narratives: Power, dominance, and submission are deeply embedded in human history, literature, and mythology. Many people resonate with these themes, seeing them as natural expressions of relationships.

• Taboo & Forbidden Desire: The thrill of engaging in socially taboo activities can enhance arousal and psychological intensity.

• Rebellion Against Control: Some individuals with highly structured or controlled lives (e.g., CEOs, military personnel) enjoy submission as a way to relinquish responsibility, while others use dominance as a way to assert control.

How Do People Get Into S&M?

There is no single pathway into sadomasochism; people discover it in different ways:

1. Early Fantasies & Media Exposure

• Some individuals recall having sadistic or masochistic fantasies as children (e.g., being tied up, captured, or dominating others in play).

• Books like Venus in Furs, The Story of O, or modern media like Fifty Shades of Grey introduce people to BDSM concepts.

2. Personal Relationships & Exploration

• A partner may introduce them to S&M, leading to experimentation.

• Attending BDSM events, reading about kink, or engaging in online discussions can spark curiosity.

3. Self-Discovery Through Experience

• Some people stumble into it by noticing they enjoy rough sex, spanking, or being restrained and then explore deeper levels.

• Others realize they feel psychologically satisfied by power exchange and consensual control dynamics.

Types of S&M Practices

Sadomasochism includes a broad range of activities that vary in intensity and focus:

• Physical Pain Play: Spanking, flogging, caning, whipping, biting, pinching, hot wax, electroplay.

• Sensory Play: Deprivation (blindfolds, earplugs), overstimulation, ice, tickling.

• Humiliation & Degradation: Verbal degradation, forced nudity, objectification.

• Psychological Domination: Power exchange, obedience training, role-playing authority figures (e.g., teacher-student, master-slave).

• Breath Play: Choking, suffocation (highly dangerous and requires knowledge of risk mitigation).

• Edge Play: Knife play, blood play, fear play (extreme and risky, requiring deep trust and safety measures).

Consent & Ethical Considerations

S&M is built on consensual power exchange, meaning all participants agree to the activities, roles, and limits involved. The BDSM community follows the principles of:

• RACK (Risk-Aware Consensual Kink): Engaging in potentially dangerous activities with full awareness of risks.

• SSC (Safe, Sane, and Consensual): Ensuring that all activities are negotiated, agreed upon, and practiced responsibly.

• Aftercare: Providing emotional and physical care after intense scenes to prevent distress, sub-drop (emotional crash after submission), or dom-drop (emotional exhaustion for dominants).

Common Misconceptions About S&M

1. “It’s abusive.”

• Abuse is non-consensual harm; S&M is consensual and often involves more communication and trust than vanilla relationships.

2. “People who enjoy pain are psychologically damaged.”

• Studies show that many BDSM practitioners are psychologically healthy and often more communicative in relationships.

3. “It’s only about pain.”

• Many S&M dynamics involve psychological power exchange, dominance, submission, or altered states, not just physical sensations.

4. “It’s just about sex.”

• Some S&M relationships are sexual, but others focus on power exchange, control, or personal growth without sex.

Why Do People Stay Involved?

People remain engaged in S&M because it fulfills deep-seated needs:

• Emotional Connection: Deep trust and vulnerability in power dynamics strengthen bonds.

• Catharsis & Stress Relief: Pain, submission, or dominance can be a form of emotional release.

• Personal Growth: Exploring edges of comfort zones and challenging internalized fears.

• Sexual & Psychological Satisfaction: Engaging in primal desires and taboo fantasies.

Final Thoughts

Sadomasochism is a complex and deeply personal experience that varies from person to person. Whether rooted in biology, psychology, or social influences, S&M provides a space for people to explore their desires, push boundaries, and create deep, consensual connections with others.

Her Latest Trick

 

This is an analysis of how an unaccountable narcissist manipulates others by altering the context of events to suit their narrative.

What she describes as being “bullied” was, in reality, a situation where others distanced themselves from her due to her hostility and aggression when confronted with evidence of her manipulations.

Her claim that someone was “telling her what to do” refers to an incident in which an individual she was attempting to manipulate became aware of her actions—having seen concrete evidence—and instructed her to stop using his name on her product without his consent.

Her public statements paint a vastly different picture from what actually occurred. Those familiar with the full context and supporting evidence can see the discrepancies. She has recast herself as the victim while portraying everyone else as the aggressors. If she took accountability for her antisocial behavior, she would likely face fewer issues and maintain a stronger reputation within the community.

This case serves as a compelling and instructive example of how individuals with traits on the Machiavellian-narcissistic-sociopathic-psychopathic spectrum can negatively impact communities when their behavior goes unchecked.

She has wronged me multiple times, and I have evidence to support this. However, her response to my decision to go public with this information has been to label me a bully and a stalker.

My motivation is self-protection and to warn others about what she is capable of. I have the right to do both, and the public has the right to be informed.

Autism Vs The System

Two versions of the same form—one from a school and one from a doctor—both created by neurotypical professionals, making it difficult to provide accurate and sufficient information. 

For the past ten years, I have had to go through women to access these forms, and as a result, I was never given them until now. The fact that I have now received them through men is worth noting, as this is ultimately a child welfare issue.

The forms in question are applications for the child to be assessed for an autism diagnosis. They are not a diagnosis themselves but rather a request for a trained professional to evaluate him. That specialist, based on their expertise, experience, and training, will determine whether the child exhibits traits of autism. However, before the application can even reach that stage, an authority figure must first sign off, verifying that the request is relevant based on their own observations.

So far, the female professionals involved have stated that because the child refuses to attend school, they cannot assess whether an autism evaluation is necessary. When I explained that school refusal due to overwhelm and pressure is, in itself, a common symptom of autism, they reiterated the same stance—that they cannot assess the request as relevant.

A home education officer, who works with autistic children daily, acknowledged the child’s struggles, identifying them as a form of autism known as Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA). However, she is not a diagnostic professional. Before she could complete the form, Social Services pressured the child into returning to the state school system, resetting the entire process.

This time, however, male authorities have acknowledged the possibility that I, as the child’s father, may have a valid point. This pattern has persisted throughout the child’s life. When we present the reality in clear, undeniable terms, the neurotypical mindset itself becomes an obstacle—causing further trauma on top of the challenges of autism. Those in authority resist accountability, refusing to acknowledge their role in the problem.

From the autistic perspective, authority figures often equate their position with infallibility, leading to a lack of trust. This is not a failing on the part of the autistic individual but rather a systemic issue. When neurotypicals claim that autistic individuals struggle with communication, they fail to recognize how frustrating and invalidating the process is from the autistic person’s point of view.

The child and I have independently reached the same conclusions through our own lived experiences. Even the child’s mother, despite our differences, agrees with this assessment. I have always respected the child’s ability to form his own opinions—it would be impossible to impose a perspective on him anyway. Yet, neurotypical authorities struggle to comprehend this fundamental aspect of autism.

This resistance to acknowledging the reality of autism—particularly in men who can clearly articulate these issues—is a significant barrier to diagnosis. It is also why homeschooling would have been the best option for the child all along.

Because of the extensive waiting list, the child will not see a diagnostic specialist for another five years—by which point, he will be 19. We are just one example of a family, and of future generations, being let down by the system. And the reason for this? Female authorities refuse to collaborate with men.

This is not a misogynistic statement—it is my lived experience. I sincerely wish the situation were different. If my concerns had been taken seriously from the beginning, the child could have been diagnosed years ago. Our entire family would have been far less stressed, and the child’s life could have been significantly easier.

The child is not naïve. He has seen all of this for exactly what it is.

Truth vs Peace / ChatGPT4

 

Truth vs Peace - a discourse

CharGPT-4 version 

“The same people telling it different are saying ‘don’t trust the source’.”

“Whose side are you on?”

“Truth and Peace.”

“What if you have to choose between Truth or Peace?”

[A side argument assess whether they are the same thing, establishes they are not]

“I choose Peace.”

“I choose Truth.”

“Can we ‘agree to disagree’?” 

“Until a lie is exposed.” 

“How can we tell? The original problem: The same people telling it different are saying ‘don’t trust the source’.” 

“We judge people by their actions, not by their words.” 

“That’s it?”

“It is called integrity. Then we hold them accountable. It is called accountability.” 

“If they choose to lie and go against peace?”

“Either we step back and approach the situation in terms of how to repair, or we go to war first and then step back and approach the situation in terms of how to repair.” 

“What if we don’t step back first?”

“It escalates tensions. It leads to war, not to peace.” 

“What if the people telling by it differently are right? What if we can not trust the source?” 

“We step back and approach the situation in terms of how we repair. This way leads to peace.” 

“Is this the best solution available?”

“Apparently so.” 

“It revolves around acceptance of truth and that actions speak truth where words might be a deceptive.” 

“Yes.”

“What if actions can also be deceptions?”

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Continue this dialogue

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ChatGPT-4 said: 

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“If actions can also be deceptions, then how do we discern truth?”

“We observe patterns. A single action can be misleading, but a pattern of actions reveals intent.”

“And if the pattern itself is deception?”

“Then we expand our lens. We look at consequences, not just intent. Lies unravel over time.”

“What if people refuse to see the unraveling?”

“Then they have chosen comfort over truth. That is their burden, but it cannot become ours.”

“Can peace exist without shared truth?”

“Only a fragile peace. One that shatters the moment truth demands recognition.”

“So to have true peace, we must be willing to confront lies?”

“Yes. But with strategy. A confrontation without preparation is just another war.”

“What if the lies are protected by power?”

“Then power must be stripped of its ability to enforce deception.”

“And if power resists?”

“Power always resists. That is why truth-seekers must be patient and precise.”

“But what if time is against us? What if waiting costs lives?”

“Then we weigh the cost of action against the cost of inaction. And we act only when the cost of waiting outweighs the cost of war.”

“And who decides that?”

“The ones who are willing to bear the consequences.”

“What if no one is willing?”

“Then the lie endures.”

“Then peace is an illusion.”

“Then so is truth.”

“…And we are trapped.”

“Unless someone chooses differently.”

“Unless someone chooses both truth and peace.”

Summary

The dialogue explores the relationship between truth, peace, and deception, concluding that true peace cannot exist without a shared truth. Actions reveal intent over time, but deception can be sustained through power and societal unwillingness to confront lies. The pursuit of truth requires patience, strategy, and the willingness to act when inaction becomes more harmful. If no one is willing to bear the consequences of seeking truth, deception prevails, making both peace and truth illusions. The only way forward is for someone to choose both truth and peace, balancing confrontation with strategy to break the cycle of deception.