Wednesday, 1 October 2025

Familial Epistemic Undermining Case Study

 

Familial Epistemic Undermining: A Case Study of Induced Mistrust in Parent-Child Relationships


Abstract

This paper examines a dynamic in which one parent, supported by a social network, systematically convinces a child that the other parent is untrustworthy. The resulting condition produces chronic mistrust, confusion, and relational breakdown. Drawing on theories of parental alienation, epistemic injustice, coercive control, and attachment, the analysis frames this as a form of Familial Epistemic Undermining (FEU) — a process that distorts the child’s development of trust, cognitive clarity, and relational stability. Both psychological and sociological perspectives are employed to contextualize the case, with an emphasis on transmission mechanisms and consequences.



1. Introduction


Trust is a central psychological and sociological foundation of human development. In early life, caregivers function as the child’s primary source of reality-testing and security. When this foundation is disrupted, children face challenges in forming stable attachments and in distinguishing truth from deception. As Bowlby (1969/1982) argued, “the propensity to make strong emotional bonds to particular individuals is a basic component of human nature.” When a caregiver manipulates this bond by eroding trust in the other parent, the child’s epistemic world is destabilized.



2. The Case


In this scenario, the father is consistently honest, while the mother and her support network repeatedly frame him as deceptive, telling the child that he is “trying to trick” him. Over years of exposure, the child internalizes this framing and rejects not only contested statements but also straightforward truths. The mistrust becomes pathological: the child cannot distinguish between detecting a trick and living in a state where every statement might be a trick. This chronic uncertainty amplifies confusion. In response, the child defaults to trusting the narrative that provides the most stability — the mother and her allies.


The consequences are asymmetrical. The father, as an adult, may rationalize or contextualize the dynamic, though still suffering emotional harm. The child, lacking developmental faculties for such abstraction, suffers the greater injury: impaired trust formation, distorted perception of reality, and potential long-term relational difficulties.



3. Theoretical Framework


3.1 Parental Alienation


The dynamics reflect parental alienation, where one parent manipulates a child into rejecting the other. Gardner (2001) described this as “a disturbance in which a child, in the context of custody dispute, allies himself strongly with one parent and rejects a relationship with the other without legitimate justification.” Contemporary research confirms that parental alienating behaviors correlate with lasting harm to children’s mental health (Verhaar et al., 2022).


3.2 Triangulation and Family Systems


Bowen’s family systems theory describes “triangles” as the basic unit of family interaction: “a triangle is a three-person relationship system” (Bowen Center, n.d.). Here, the mother draws the child into a triangle, stabilizing her conflict with the father by positioning the child as an ally against him.


3.3 Epistemic Injustice


Fricker (2007) defines epistemic injustice as “when someone is wronged specifically in their capacity as a knower.” In FEU, the child is not only misled but structurally prevented from trusting their own judgment of the father’s testimony. The father is simultaneously denied credibility, and the child is denied the developmental experience of balanced truth-testing.


3.4 Gaslighting and Epistemic Abuse


Gaslighting, described by Stern (2007) as “a form of psychological manipulation that causes the victim to doubt their perception of reality,” closely parallels this process. The difference is that here the gaslighting is transmitted through the child, creating a secondary victimization.


3.5 Coercive Control


Stark (2007) frames coercive control as patterned tactics that dominate another’s autonomy. In this case, the control is exercised indirectly, with the child’s loyalty and perception shaped against the other parent. The broader support network functions as reinforcement, normalizing the distrust.


3.6 Attachment Disruption


Attachment research shows that consistency and reliability are critical for secure development. Ainsworth et al. (1978) demonstrated that children build trust when caregivers respond predictably. In FEU, the child experiences one parent’s honesty reframed as duplicity, producing cognitive dissonance and confusion. This undermines secure attachment and risks disorganized attachment patterns.



4. Sociological Dimensions


From a sociological perspective, FEU is not merely interpersonal but structural. The mother’s support network amplifies and legitimates her framing, creating a collective reinforcement system. This reflects what Bourdieu might describe as the “social capital of narratives,” where group solidarity provides epistemic authority. The child, embedded in this network, experiences a closed epistemic system where contradictory information is dismissed.


The process is “relatively easy to set in motion,” as the case notes, because once social reinforcement occurs, the mistrust becomes self-sustaining. Each denial of truth by the father becomes further “evidence” of trickery.



5. Consequences

For the Child: confusion, loss of trust in personal judgment, anxiety, insecure attachment, long-term relational difficulties, possible developmental trauma.

For the Father: rejection, grief, limited access to relational repair, frustration in being consistently disbelieved despite honesty.

For the Mother/Network: short-term consolidation of control but potential long-term erosion of the child’s trust once cognitive maturity reveals the manipulation.



6. Conclusion


The described case exemplifies Familial Epistemic Undermining — a psychological and sociological process in which one caregiver systematically erodes a child’s trust in the other through a network of reinforcement. The child suffers the greatest harm, as their developing faculties of trust and reality-testing are impaired. The case underscores the need for professional awareness of how triangulation, parental alienation, and epistemic abuse intersect in family systems, and highlights the importance of interventions that restore children’s capacity to trust both parents safely.



Index of Related Sources

Ainsworth, M. D. S., Blehar, M. C., Waters, E., & Wall, S. (1978). Patterns of attachment: A psychological study of the strange situation. Lawrence Erlbaum.

Bowlby, J. (1969/1982). Attachment and loss: Vol. 1. Attachment. Basic Books.

Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. (n.d.). Triangles. The Bowen Center.

Fricker, M. (2007). Epistemic injustice: Power and the ethics of knowing. Oxford University Press.

Gardner, R. A. (2001). The parental alienation syndrome: Past, present, and future. American Journal of Forensic Psychology, 19(3), 61–105.

Stark, E. (2007). Coercive control: How men entrap women in personal life. Oxford University Press.

Stern, R. (2007). The gaslight effect: How to spot and survive the hidden manipulation others use to control you. Harmony Books.

Verhaar, S., Bakker, J., van der Aa, N., & Finkenauer, C. (2022). The impact of parental alienating behaviours on mental health: A systematic review with meta-analysis. Child Abuse & Neglect, 129, 105648.



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